My journal of the adventures and activities that I enjoy in my life. Some posts will be work related. Other posts will be family related. A smattering of me is what you will get by reading this blog.
Wednesday, October 05, 2011
FirstTimers Cheat Sheet 3 : More Humans to Hunt
Tuesday, October 04, 2011
FirstTimers Cheat Sheet 2 : Adventurous Version : Cards
FirstTimers Cheat Sheet 2 : Adventurous Version
Monday, October 03, 2011
FirstTimers Cheat Sheet
FirstTimers Cheat Sheet
Let me start by saying that I have been there. Standing in a room or strangers, wanting to reach out to them, add them to my network, but unable to do so. Why? Why couldn’t I? Well, that would take way too long to blog about. So let’s just skip to the how.
Let’s start over. Why do you go to PASS Summit? To Learn and To Network. Learning is easy. Attend at least 1 session while at the summit and I guarantee that you will learn something. It’s the second part that causes some of us to stumble.
Let’s break down networking. My own definition is to add individuals to my network of individuals that can help me in my day job, my tasks. Notice that I said add individual(s). This entails more than one. Multiples. Many. You get the picture. People. Humans like you.
How can we do this quickly and easily? I’ll show you 3 easy steps with several ground rules associated with these steps. First, back to the definition. Adding individuals to your network. These will be bonds that you create with another human, adding them to your toolbox of skills to accomplish your tasks. This is a selfish goal. But to accomplish this, you must be unselfish. You must reach out to them and be interested in them. Some people you may have very little in common, while you will find others that you have many points of interest connected. This is ok. They all go into your networking bucket. All. Stick them all in there.
Ground rules
For the next 3 steps, I want the following rules to apply. Do not talk about yourself, unless asked. Do not dismiss the individual during any of the steps. In between steps you may have to break the contact. This is OK. Contact can be reestablished later. Learn how to be genuinely interested in their responses to your 3 steps. I didn’t say pretend. Actually become interested. This is part of the unselfishness on your part. If all that happens is that you learn about them, then the goal has been accomplished. You may say to yourself that they know nothing about you. That’s ok. The goal here is for you to add them to ‘your’ network. Selfish goal, but accomplished by unselfish means. Become interested in each response. Become enthralled in what makes them human and a database professional and everything in between.
Steps
What I want you to do here is to memorize these steps. If you cannot do that, then write them down on a cheat sheet. I want you to ask the other humans the following questions.
- · Who
- · Where
- · What
When do you ask the other humans these questions? Whenever you find yourself near an individual for more than 10 seconds, turn to them, look them in the eye and ask them these questions. Realize that there are 3 and that a break in contact may occur in between any of these questions, and that is ok. Let it happen organically. But these are the questions to ask. Remember to be interested in their responses, and do not simply wait for a break to talk about yourself. In fact, do not talk about yourself, unless asked.
Who
Look them in the eye and ask them ‘Who are you’? Do not look at their name badge. This only tell them their name. You may forget this anyway. Try not to. But this is not what you are asking. You want to know who this person is. Let them tell you, in their own words. This is a nice simple ice breaker. It’s like asking a date out for a drink instead of dinner. Thus allowing an out if it’s not working out and they are trapped in a longer event than planned for (dinner). This is short and sweet. ‘Who are you’? It may sound brusk and you may alter it as needed to fit your personality. Point is that you are engaging them, and asking about them. DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOURSELF, unless asked. Remember that you are adding them to your network. They may not be adding you back. That’s ok. It may happen, it may not. It’s OK. Remember to be interested in them. ‘Who’ they are. Learn from them. Let them go on and on about themselves. I bet you will find that they are experts in talking about themselves. It’s one of my favorite topics.
Where
This digs a little deeper and can be several questions, depending on how it’s going. Where do you live? Where are you from? Where do you work? Each of these questions opens up a plethora of responses and follow up questions. As organically as possible, let these happen on their own. This section of steps can become rather large. Be ready to take the time and be interested. Remember that you are still forbidden from adding your own information at this point, unless asked. (I bet you will be asked and this will allow the other individual a chance to find out the same things as you are finding out, and thus add you to their network as you are adding them to your own). As you find out another piece of info, try to dig a little deeper, or make a connection.
Before I go on to the last step, realize that we have said nothing really about databases, our skills, our goals, our talents, our favorite or least favorite piece of the database world. We are getting to know the human. Remember that they are 1st a human like you, second an IT professional, and third a database professional. There are many things you can have in common before you actually reach the database professional stage of information gathering. Hopefully before this stage even occurs you have forged enough bonds with this person, built up a relationship of trust and added them to your network, regardless of whether they are in BI, DBA, Development, Contracting, etc.
What
This question gets more into the nitty gritty and you start seeing where you overlap in skills and talents. Some sample questions for this stage are ‘What do you do?’, ‘What brings you to the Summit?’, ‘What do you hope to gain out of this Summit?’, ‘What is your favorite part of SQL Server?’, ‘What are you good at?’, ‘What are you not so good at?’, ‘What do you hope to be better at?’, and so on. Add here as you see fit. But the point of this section is to learn more about them. As I have said before, you are here to learn about them. Where possible, refrain from telling your own tales and wowing them. Let them ask you. It will happen. It’s human nature. But by you showing a genuine interest in their skills, in them, you forge that bond that will elevate this person into your upper echelon of helpful networked individuals.
Once you have exhausted these initial questions, realize that that may be the end of this interaction. You may or may not have made a friend for life. Time will tell. But it is important that you break away before it becomes awkward. Let this happen organically, naturally. Remember to not monopolize their time. Selfishly, you are here to form bonds with as many people as possible; adding each one to your network. Sticking it out beyond usefulness does neither of you any good.
Let’s Pretend
You find yourself standing next to me in a hall. You turn to me, without looking at my badge, and ask me ‘Who are you?’ I will probably grab my badge to double check the name, and then tell you my name. I will then probably do the same to you, asking your name, while still looking you in the eye. My eye will then wonder to your name badge to see it visually, as I attempt to burn your name and face into my memory. Sometimes this burning succeeds, other times it does not. But I will always remember this interaction with you.
Next you ask me ‘Where do you come from?’ For me, this answer requires a bit of time. I come from California. That’s where I was born and raised. It’s part of who I am so I will answer with this bit of information. But I will also tell you that I am from Utah, as this is there I live now. With this information you have a plethora of follow up questions. You can ask me about where in California I grew up, why I left, if I know Fresno, where your uncle lives and you visited once. I will tell you that I do know Fresno, and have visited friends of our family many times. In fact, they live in Clovis, nearby to Fresno. Since I opened up more information about Fresno, feel free to dig into this. At this point you realize that you know someone that lives in Clovis, and ask me if I knew them. Why not? I may know them. You’d be surprised. Next you may ask me about my living in Utah. Here you can be adventurous and ask me if I am ‘Mormon’, or even more adventurous and ask me how many wives I have. This will lead to some interesting discussions. Maybe you only want to ask me if I have visited Lake Powell or Zion National Park, or if I snow ski? Realize that you have not said you do any of these things. You are asking me about me. You may want to ask ‘Where do you work?’ This too will open up a plethora of follow up questions. See the pattern here? You are not talking about you. You are asking about me. Letting me go on and on about me. It’s one of my favorite topics.
You get the idea. Start small. Grow organically. Let the networking happen easily and efficiently. Stick to these simple questions and branch out when you feel comfortable. Learn about them. Add them to your network. Remember this interaction. Make as many of these as you can.
When you find yourself having 10 seconds near another human, lean over, look them in the eye, and then ask them Who, Where and What. You may have just found a friend for life. At the least, you may forge a bond with another human that can be added to your network. Goal accomplished.
Tuesday, September 06, 2011
I don't know anyone, I don't sing karaoke, I don't drink. Can I still have fun at SQLPASS?
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
#TSQL2sDay: Resolutions
So tell us: what techie resolutions have you been pondering, and why? Are you heading for a certification? An award? Are you looking to pick up CLR because that guy at the Summit said it’s “bitchin’”? Go crazy…
2. Produce presentations. 4-6 presentations for the year
3. Speak
4. Perform Regional Mentor Duties
5. Blog
6. Articles
7. MVP
8. Read
9. Topics
10. #InboxZero
Wednesday, December 08, 2010
New gig, new changes and social networking
During the past couple of years, I have definitely learned a lot. Skills that will help me forever in this line of work. I have also worked some random hours, long hours and extra hours. Many times I have been known to work the full day, only to find myself working the night as well. This is not uncommon in our line of work. It is understood that if you are supporting a database system, you become the goto guy/gal at any hours of the day or night to help keep your system up and running. You may often find yourself in a situation where your tasks require you to do specific things, and be unable to do other things. Meaning, our job requirements may be detailed for us, and disallowing us from performing certain activities. Roles and Responsibilities, division of duties and all that. These rules allow us to ensure that the right people are performing the right tasks at the right time.
Well, as I wax poetic about our jobs and responsibilities, I realize I got off topic a bit. So, back on track we go. A month ago, at the beginning of November, I received a random email from a Systems Engineer at a company I had never heard of. I have never heard of the individual that sent me the email either. It turns out that I am a secondary link thru the social networking wite LinkedIn. This individual seemed to have the need of a DBA's services, and knew that relying on his connections, may be able to uncover someone that was interested.
Whenever I receive requests of this nature, either thru a person I know, or a headhunter, or from whomever, I always entertain the information. It may be of interest to me, or maybe better suited for someone else. But I may as well listen to the option. If it is interesting to me, I'll follow up. Usually it is not interesting, and I can share this with others that may be looking, or members of the User Group or the local community. So, I entertain any job prospect. In fact, I looked back at my email and saw that about 12 different options had come across my desk in the last year. This is by no means a 'brag'. Most of these options were simply not interesting to me, or even worse, I was not qualified to be interested in them.
So, back to this job prospect. Random email or pointed search, I entertained it, and shot my resume over to this person. Once they received it, they were interested, and asked to see me. I love this part of the process. It makes me feel loved, wanted, and validates my skills and work ethic. This first foot in any door makes you feel alive. You must remember that this feeling also was felt with your current employer, once upon a time. Its fun to feel again and again. But it was once felt, and there were reasons you chose what you chose at that time. Keep these in mind when you weigh the possibilities.
After a couple back and forths, me learning about them, and them learning about me, it seemed we were both interested in each other, and offers were made. This is when those feelings of excitement take an odd turn. All the rest leading up to this is simply flirting and is very exciting. Once an offer comes in, it's game time. The feelings get all mixed up. Remember, you once felt excited about your current employer, and made a decision to begin working there. What to do, what to do....
I spent a couple days agonizing about the pros and cons of each option. In the end, I decided to jump to the next opportunity. The pros of this shop are as follows.
The product that is being sold is to school systems around the country and internationaly. The goal of this product is to teach children to speak and read english. The product uses games and video and interaction to teach. There are databases that produce the learning experience, databases gathering data on what is going on, what users are doing, and so on, databases that are used to report on many aspects of the product. I plan being able to help with performance tuning, data warehousing, data migration, and building out the systems and databases to be more robust systems. I'll get to take the skills I currently have and utilize them in a variety of ways, as well as learn new and exciting things. The systems are all SQL Server 2008 databases, which is exciting to me, as I seem to have been stuck just behind that curve with critical systems being on 2005 and even 2000. I have often wanted to do more work with BI and DW, and this will give me that chance. The company is close by, which will not negatively impact my commute. I have heard nothing but good things from employees as well as families of employees of this new company. The money and other options are similar to what I currently enjoy, and are neither a huge increase or decrease. The company is not tiny, but is not huge either. I have had conversations, as per the interview process, with almost a dozen people and have been really impressed with what I have learned thus far. I will get to attend SQLPASS this next year, as this was one of those options I requested in the beginning.
So, new chapter, new gig. Life will change. Day to day work will be different. Different people will become my coworkers. Lots of differences to come. Its exciting and scary at the same time.
Monday, June 15, 2009
What I Learned at PASS
Since the contest has a size limit, I am partitioning the story below from the rest of this blog entry.
Contest Entry starts here
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Let’s start at the beginning. I wanted to learn more about SQL Server, and found a local User Group, and attended.
After a few meetings, I got to know a few people, including the President. Having these contacts, and being able to ask questions of these local ‘knowledge stores’ when I needed help was priceless. If the story ended there, it would already be a success story. I had networked and learned. I was a better DBA for it.
But that’s not the end. The President told me that I should go to PASS. Since I trusted him already, I went. My family came with me to Florida, and went to DisneyWorld, as I went to PASS. I remember being alone with people all around me. But I soon noticed tons of people, just like me, wanting to learn. During the conference, I saw a few people that I knew, and recognized some names from books I had read. Soon, I realized that all the people attending and speaking, were just like me. This is the 1st great thing that I learned; there are no experts that are better than me, they are people just like me, they just learned this stuff earlier. Now they are sharing with the rest of us. I too can learn what they know. The quantity of knowledge and contacts I have gained because I attended PASS cannot be measured. And that’s why we are all here at PASS. To learn and to network.
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Contest Entry ends here
I just wanted to say a few more words in regards to PASS summits that wouldnt fit in the contest.
I have been to many PASS summits, as many as my employer has allowed. Some times, my employer has not allowed it. This has been a source of frustration to me. This annual event is where I get to join up with others of my kind, and learn from them. This has increased my knowledge so much. I hope that i get to go this year, and in future years. Regardless of attendance, I am an avid volunteer in various pieces of the PASS puzzle. This volunteerism gives me a satisfaction that i cannot gain elsewhere, especially at work. Its a great opportunity. All should attend and learn and network and better themselves. Then return and repeat.
Wednesday, April 01, 2009
SQLPASS Auditing & Compliance SIG LiveMeeting
Many different topics were presented, with possible solutions provided.
We discussed ways to remedaite the following topics, and how to provide auditable documentation for auditors.
Change Management
Division of duties
Backup and Recovery
Restoration
Data Structure Changes
Back End Database User Access
Database Authentication & Access
Job Monitoring
Data Monitoring Controls
Data Transfer
Physical Access
I felt like it went well, and hopefully helped folks out with their concerns and needs with this topic. A few people asked for the slides or the recording. I hope that it got recorded, but in the short term i have posted the slides here.
When I find out about the recording, I'll post it somewhere we can get to it.
I hope that this is the first of many events that will help us DBA's with Auditing & Compliance.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Presenting for the Auditing & Compliance SIG
Many years ago, I was tasked with bring a system into compliance that I was DBA for. We started at scratch, and built up policy, procedure and a few systems to assist us. I later used this knowledge setting up another shot. Now I want to share this with you.
Live Meeting URL: http://www.sqlpass.org/Community/SIGs/AuditingandComplianceSIG/tabid/84/Default.aspx
Audio Dial-In Information:
Conference Dial in: (866) 379-8990
Conference code: 6489756
More information locate on the SIG page:
http://www.sqlpass.org/Events/ctl/ViewEvent/mid/521.aspx?ID=103
A few articles I've written on the subject.
http://www.sql-server-performance.com/articles/audit/Automate_Audit_Requests%20_p1.aspx
http://www.sql-server-performance.com/articles/audit/Audit_Data_Modifications_p1.aspx
http://www.sqlservercentral.com/articles/Auditing/63249/
Friday, March 20, 2009
PASS Call for Speakers Now Open
I rarely blog these types of infos, since others typically do before me.
But today, i was in a weird mood, and wanted to do a fun blog for a Friday, and this was all i could come up with.
Since others have already done this, i'll just list their blogs, and count them as my own... hehe
http://sqlbatman.com/2009/03/pass-call-for-speakers-now-open/
http://wiseman-wiseguy.blogspot.com/2009/03/pass-summit-2009-call-for-speakers.html
Well, it turns out, thats it. Those are the only ones so far that have blogged about it. Crud, I shoulda jumped on the bandwagon and blogged about it. Wait, thats what I'm doing, but under the disguise that I am doing a funny blog about it, and not actually doing the call for speakers... so, you decide.
I was just bored on a Support call, saw a few tweets come across my screen, and got a funny notion in my head. Its probably only funny to me, but in the end, that all that really matters. Did I make me laugh? If so, blog it. Check and mate.
So, i hit Search.twitter.com and looked for more. I did find more folks talking about it there...
sql_joker: SQL Batman - PASS Call for Speakers Now Open: Did you want to speak at the upcoming PASS 2009 Commun.. http://tinyurl.com/cf3egu (expand)
23 minutes ago from twitterfeed
AndyLeonard: RT @SQLBatman: [Blog] PASS Call for Speakers Now Open:Did you want to speak at the upcoming PASS 2009 Community Summit? http://s3nt.com/d8rb
34 minutes ago from TweetDeck
SQLBatman: [Blog] PASS Call for Speakers Now Open: Did you want to speak at the upcoming PASS 2009 Community Summit? Well, now ... http://s3nt.com/d8rb
36 minutes ago from Ping.fm
unclebiguns: New blog post: http://tinyurl.com/cv4k9e (expand) - PASS Summit 2009 Call for Speakers Open
about 2 hours ago from web
SqlAsylum: RT @sqlpass: PASS Summit 2009 Call For Speakers Opens Friday 3/20 and will close on Friday 4/10. Check out the PASS Home Page for details.
1 day ago from TweetDeck
AndyLeonard: RT @sqlpass: PASSSummit2009 Call For Speakers Opens Friday 3/20 and will close on Friday 4/10.Check out the PASS Home Page for more details.
2 days ago from TweetDeck
BetsyLM: RT @sqlpassPASS Summit 2009 Call For Speakers Opens Friday 3/20 and will close on Friday 4/10. Check out the PASS Home Page for more details
2 days ago from web
sqlpass: PASS Summit 2009 Call For Speakers Opens Friday 3/20 and will close on Friday 4/10. Check out the PASS Home Page for more details.
2 days ago from TinyTwitter
SqlAsylum: RT @sqlpass: PASS Call For Speakers opens 3/20, closing on 4/3! Get your abstracts together folks. it's going to be a great Summit!
7 days ago from TweetDeck
peschkaj: RT @sqlpass: PASS Call For Speakers opens 3/20, closing on 4/3! Get your abstracts together folks.
7 days ago from TweetDeck
statisticsio: Retweeting @sqlpass: PASS Call For Speakers opens 3/20, closing on 4/3! Get your abstracts together folks.
7 days ago from OutTwit
AndyLeonard: RT @sqlpass: PASS Call For Speakers opens 3/20, closing on 4/3! Get your abstracts together folks... it's going to be a great Summit!
7 days ago from TweetDeck
sqlpass: PASS Call For Speakers opens 3/20, closing on 4/3! Get your abstracts together folks. With your help it's going to be a great Summit!
7 days ago from TinyTwitter
So, get out and get your presentations dusted off. Submit them. Prepare yourself for an incredible experience at PASS by becoming a presenter. Its a thrill of a lifetime. Or so i have been told. I'm to scared to do it myself, and who would wanna listen to my half baked ideas anyway. Wait, i should listen to the other advice i just gave, and do it myself. I did submit an abstract a couple years ago... Maybe i still have it somewhere....
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
PASS High
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Summer Camp for DBA's (#SQLPASS) is over for 2008
I started sending this over Twitter, but ran out of 140 characters too soon.
Either I know too many people, or all their names are too long. hum...
So, here it goes.
Thanks goes out to :
People that i follow on twitter that i met or remet while attending PASS
@alibro
@AndyLeonard
@blythemorrow
@bradmcgehee
@BrentO
@Bugboi
@DevSQL
@donalddotfarmer
@douglasmcdowell
@drsql
@Grant_Fritchey
@greglow
@jessicammoss
@joewebb
@KevinIC3
@lyndarab
@PaulNielsen
@peschkaj
@Peter_Shire
@robboek
@rushabhmehta
@sqlagentman
@SqlAsylum
@SQLBatman
@SQLDiva
@sqlinsaneo
@stuarta
@wardy
@way0utwest
Thanks goes out to those twits that were not in attendance, yet involved themselves in a positive way and contributed to the PASS summit
@statisticsio
@sh3n3rd
And the folks that i met and remet that have yet to get with twitter, but still provides a valuable social experience at the PASS summit.
Andy Warren
Ben Miller
Bill Graziano
Christoph Stotz
Chuck Heinzelman
Erin Welker
Itzik Ben-Gan
Kalen Delaney
Kevin Kline
Neil Watkins
Rick Heiges
Wayne Snyder
And all the wonderful folks at Red-Gate
Dominic
Andras
Rachael
and more i do not remember names of, i'm sure.
I am sure that i missed some folks, and i will try to add to the list as i remember them.
While at PASS, i had the chance to meet and talk with so many different folks. All of which taught me. All of which i learned from. From the presenters, from the organizers, from the board of PASS, from the volunteers, from the attendees (delegates), from the speakers, and from others. If you do not take the time
What an amazing experience PASS was this year. With the advent of the Social Networking toys we all picked up, plus the combination of close proximity to everyone in the Summit, I was able to meet and interact with people in a way i never have before. Le't's talk about a few of the new experiences that i was able to participate in over this new wave of Social Networking that was unleashed with a vengance upon #SQLPass.
Where else, or when else have you
- been an audience member, and seen the inner thoughts of people about to take stage in front of 3000 people, and seen and read what they were thinking before, and after? and then seen that person later alter their presentation based on feedback from the audience, before taking the stage?
- been able to get the insights of a dozen individuals if not more that are participating in an educational experience, at the same time you are?
- been allowed the opportunity to meet up and organize into small groups quickly and efficiently, while those same people are scattered amongst the city in different locations?
- been keyed into great sessions that others are participating in and be able to decide to jump to that session or stay in yours?
- been able to wake up or goto bed, and get a slight iternary of peoples actions, even though you are not present?
- been able to join a group of friends that have all taken off to a destination, and realize its the same destination you intended on going too? Now you are not alone.
- been able to get someone to save you a seat, as you were late getting into a capacity filling room, and been able to experience the session with them?
- arrived at an airport and asked to share a ride in the cab with someone, and been able to trust that individual that you had never met before?
- been in a small group of folks, and had an entire subtext of converstaion and reality occur, and be able to witness it?
- found someone who had an extra bag to lend you out in your packing needs?
- met friends you may feel a kinsmanship with, yet never met in person? and find out that they are exactly like the friend you had before meeting them?
- peek into the minds of bloggers and writers commenting and disecting anothers speech, giving you a unique opportunity of seeing the words in a different light than your own, and understand them in multiple ways, as they are still emerging from the speaker?
All this, and much more was afforded us at PASS by virtue of Twitter, and Social Networking. An amazing experience PASS has been for us all in years past, and the networking advantages we have reaped have been countless. But this PASS, 2008 PASS Summit was incredible to be a part of the upper, lower and middle realities that surrounded it with Social Networking.
An amazing experience, brought to new heights.
Friday, November 21, 2008
#PASS Day 3
- No schedule wednesday. Not allowed to have meetings on wed. U r allowed to plan life events to occur that day.
- Find friends who enhance who you are but let you be who you are.
- Kalen made a great point. Set a goal and strive for it, but do not be afraid to reevaluate it. Do not be imprisoned.\
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
#PASS Day 2
#PASS Day 1
Saturday, November 08, 2008
Getting ready for PASS - MOO cards arrived
Today, about a week later than i thought they would arrive, my MOO cards arrived. They are very professionaly done and look great. I gathered the family around to look at them, as I put about 20+ different pictures of my mug on them. The kids loved seeing their dad on cards.
After seeing a few other folks get their cards from MOO, i thoought it was a great idea too.
Thanks too SQL Batman, SQL Agentman and the one that started it all, Brent Ozar.
I usually print my own cards for PASS, and they have the little perforrations on them, and the fading ink im too cheap to replace before printing. One year, one of the colors was simply gone, and I was left with teal colored business cards. So, this year things will be different. I'll look professional. At least until you turn them over and see pics of me dirtbiking, boating, etc.